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Question of the Day: Drug Issues

We ask, you answer.

On Sunday, a West Islip resident posted on the WI Patch Facebook wall about a potential marijuana problem going on in the community. 

She wrote, "We really have to work on the drug problem here, there are 14 year olds getting pot and these parents don't see there kids coming home high."

So West Islip, is this becoming a problem?  Let us know in the comments section below. 

David September 19, 2011 at 02:21 PM
hahahahahaha its not a problem, its not crack, coke, heroin, pills or any other opiums, why don't u stop getting innocent people arrested getting them felony and top charge misdemeanors, just mind your own god dam business and worry bout your own kids
Ellen schnepf September 19, 2011 at 06:39 PM
It's the worst drug town parents start waking up I found out yesterday 2 of my sons friends r smoking and there's alot more but I will not name names and I just called the high school to see if they still had the dare program they had no idea what I was talking about it's that new principal he's not on top of this school no wonder kids r dying
Mark Johnson September 19, 2011 at 07:07 PM
Obviously your one of the 14 year olds she is referring to ! Get a Life !! ...... Before its too late !!
Ellen schnepf September 19, 2011 at 07:24 PM
No wonder there's a drug problem in wi I read the last comments I will bring at least 10 kids in my area on pot maybe you 2r one of the parents who dont care about there child
Ellen schnepf September 19, 2011 at 07:54 PM
And mark I'm 50 not a 14 year old I'm a parent who cares and sees these kids hurting themselves and it's people like you two who enable these kids
Karoline September 20, 2011 at 11:17 AM
I don't 100 percent agree with David, but he is right, it could be a worse drug and thankfully its not, and as for the arrest charges for pot, yes they are ridiculous when there is a lot worse things out there people should be pinched for. To Ellen, if your sons friends smoke, so does he, don't let him b.s you, Eckards has the home drug test, i bet he fails! Worry less about the so called pot problem and look more into the coke and heroin problem, that's where your kids are harming themselves, never seen someone die on a pot overdose and before anyone comments and wants to tell me what kind of parent i am and that I'm to blame, nah my kids tell me what they have done and tried, We were kids too, might as well be understanding that it will happen, n if you act like a fool about it, good luck getting the truth out of your kids
Maureen September 20, 2011 at 12:20 PM
Marijuana is a 'gateway' drug. If kids are smoking it now, they'll be doing other drugs sooner or later. I think a lot of people would be shocked to know how many of the MIDDLE schoolers are already drinking and smoking pot.... Go into some of the jails and ask the inmates that are in for drug or other crimes and ask them what the first drug they ever used was.
Robert Christiansen September 20, 2011 at 12:28 PM
Drugs in West Islip are as prevalent as in every town. Minors are susceptible and offered illegal narcotic drugs, alcohol and tobacco at elementary, middle and high school ages. Drugs of any type affect judgement. Parents and legal guardians are responsible for their children until they are self-responsible. That means they reach the age and realization they are responsible for themselves in all areas of their life. West Islip parents are more concerned with paying bills, looking-good, and their property values than they are about their children's future. Name names, shine a spotlight on those who break trusts. See something - Do something!
Larry September 20, 2011 at 02:43 PM
Any parent that writes that he or she did it when they were kids or oh well you know its going to happen, or the best is "my kids tell me everything they've done" and you think thats ok, your even dumber than your kids, because they are playing you the way we played our parents you stupid a__. the best is when i see parents at parties let their kids take a sip of their drink even when they are babies, why? they have their whole lives to drink and do other thing why do they need their parents the ones who are supposed to be their protectors and the ones that lay the boundaries for your children and right out of the gate you allow them to drink. there is a huge drug problem in this town and those that think pot is ok because its not coke, heroine or some over the counter drug . Hello stupid its still illegal and if they get clipped for posession it goes on their record and i guess most who think its ok for them to smoke pot have no aspirations for their kids to go to college either, because if they nailed for their goes college. stop being their friend and be a parent set the boundaries, by allowing them to do illegal things you set the tone thats breaking the law is ok!! this town and for that matter most of long island has gone into the crapper, 40 years ago when i was a kid parents were the role model and the parameter setter, now have the parents are drinking and partying with their kids, west islip is slowly becoming another white trash area of the south shore .
Mark Johnson September 20, 2011 at 03:06 PM
My comment was in reply of David, It was directed at David, not you Ellen !! I stated he was one of the 14 year olds you were referring to because of his ridiculous juvenile answer to a very important subject !
Mark Johnson September 20, 2011 at 03:17 PM
Why is everybody attacking Ellen, At least she is trying to do something about this problem in West Islip. I see alot of words here but no ACTION from you people. Does it really matter whose kids are doing drugs ? As Mothers & Fathers, we should care about all children !!!!!
Mark Johnson September 20, 2011 at 03:18 PM
Well said !!
dennis belcher September 20, 2011 at 04:51 PM
no its not crack,coke,heroin or other stuff but most dealers arent just selling weed alot sell a variety of crap and all it takes is some peace of chit whos selling a kid a 20 bag of weed and says here try this on me and BAM your kids smoking crack or sniffin coke and nowadays even doin heroin while studying for his/her 3rd period quiz,my daughter is 12 and has never seen ANY drug and seeing that i have smoked weed once or twice and experimented 1 or 2 times with other things i talk to her ALL the time about the dangers of drugs communication is the key,my 4th grade teacher from Paul .J. Bellew used to send me to her car to get her butts cause she knew i smoked and for a cigarette or 2 i wouldnt tell on her for smoking in the school,but just because i did things that were and are beyond stupid doesnt mean my daughter will because I communicate with her therefore cutting the odds of her doing things that i did....key word is COMMUNICATION..and dam right if your kids friends are smokin or snortin SO ARE YOURS 99.9%..drugs have been in WI for a long time its up to the parents to COMMUNICATE with there kids and the odds of them using go down greatly..and instead of having friends over on the weekends and letting your kids see you pound beers maybe do some family activities,outa sight outa mind your kids dont see you drinking again it cuts the odds..common sense ppl common sense jesus!!
nancy September 20, 2011 at 04:52 PM
I've written here before, and I'll do it again. Drug and alcohol abuse is prevalent in this town as it is in any other town. I am a lifetime resident of West Islip, and people choose to believe that these things don't happen in towns like ours. This is a social epidemic that knows no class, socioeconomic border, or zip code. There are many resources available...and before you judge me...I've reached out to many of them during my own family's crises. It's not the school's fault; how much more can you expect them to do? Stop being embarrassed, stop making excuses, and stop thinking "denial" is a river in Egypt. There are people to help you and your children. All because you wear Gucci or Ralph Lauren doesn't mean that you and your child may or may not have a drug/alcohol problem. And again from experience.....if they are telling you that they are smoking pot what do you think they are doing that they are not telling you? It's a painful process for the entire family but the alternative is much more painful.
Micheal H September 21, 2011 at 10:54 AM
I blame the parents! I'm in my late 20s now, and when i was in middle school - high school any time I've come home messed up or tried pulling a fast one,i was re-assured a boot up my a**. I lied to them once, was caught trying to make a fool of them, tried twice and ended with the same results, and in the end i was to blame for the actions they took on me. My parents would smell my clothing, look at my eyes, and question me till i broke down. There for i tried keeping myself away from all harm seeing i wasn't getting anything past them. I've seen it first hand and it all starts believe it or not at your local gas stations. It starts with the shoulder tapping for beer and cigarettes. As far as the actual drugs, that all begins one or two places, Either at the gas stations where they bought the papers, or in the schools, from there friends whose brothers or sister have access to it pending on there age. Which goes back to blaming the parents for not seeing whats going on in there own homes. And although yes pot is not as bad as the other hard drugs mentioned, and some believe that yes it will be legal some day for medical use. MEDICAL USE!!! There for you will still be breaking the law and arrested for possessing it like any other over the counter drug that needs a prescription. I would like to leave off on agreeing with one thing and I'm not picking on anyone, but some of you are right, if your kids friends are smoking, so are they most likely, been there, done that, seen that
Irene September 21, 2011 at 02:03 PM
From all the comments, it's clear that we love our children, and we know that drugs of any kind will be easy to obtain for any kid who is open to it. Kids experiment, and even the best of parents cannot stop a child who has this personality. I like the idea of being ever vigilant. I like the idea of monitoring what your child is doing day and night. I like the idea of keeping what you did as a teenager out of your childs "need to know" category. I like the idea of talking to your children about the terrible effects of drugs and alcohol use. I like the idea of not trying to be a "cool" parent. Kids don't need parents to be cool and be there friends, they have enough friends. Children need parents who show they care, repeat if necessary, the expectations they have of their own children. Parents need to stay confident about how they are parenting and refuse to be pulled into the "but so and so's parents let them" attitude. If you think your child can handle boundaries you set for them within reason, don't! Keep after them if you assume they may be drinking and or doing drugs. Say it out loud. Say it to them and expect them to stop and listen. Don't ever be one of those parents who threatens a punishment, if you threaten and threaten, it won't work. Take the cell phone away, the lap top away, the X-box away and make the child know that these are the rules and the morality you set in your household and to hell with what any other kids parents do. Raise the bar! Be in control!
bill September 21, 2011 at 03:38 PM
West islip has always had some sort of drug problem. We are a victim of our own success. Its primarily a middle class to upper middle class town. Most of these kids have money of some sort. Completely disposable money. None of these kids are working to support a family or a household. They work so that they can have fun money or mom and dad give it to them. 1985 saw a relatively large drug sweep that involved all of West islip. Harry Feingold was the reported ringleader. Over 50 arrests total if I remember right. People were picked up from Magoun Landing to Bay Shore Road. History will always repeat itslef. It starts and ends with the parents and families. Know where your kids are, who they are with and what they are doing. CVS sells drug testing kits. Dont hesitate to use them. Your child might fight you on them but it beats losing your child.Just ask the family of Natalie Ciappa. She was the Seaford teen who overdosed on heroin in 2009. Seaford is ten miles away and has the same demographics as West islip.
dennis belcher September 21, 2011 at 06:47 PM
disposable income really has nothing to do with doing drugs OBV the more money you have the more you can use,but i ive known ppl who have NO income yet find a way to get there drug money,and i know ppl who have plenty of resources and cant buy drugs cause dealers either dont trust em or know that godforbid they get caught with a lil bag of pot or coke they will let the police convince them if they dont tell where and who they got it from there goin to jail which unless you have an extensive record your gettin a deal which consists of community service and or probation,and maybe a small fine...dont get me wrong im not saying to go out an do drugs but its not the amount of money you have that determines whether you use drugs or not....its YOU AND YOUR CHOICES and the ppl places and things you put yourself in,and when parents COMMUNICATE with there children it makes ALL the difference in the world..my 12 yo daughter thinks that if her laptop isnt off at the time ii tell her to turn it off she did something real bad an is punished i think its the greatest thing in the world,alot of kids are gonna experiment but as long as you stay on top of it and not just sit around thinking or hoping your kid/kids are angels there shouldnt be a problem and if they do have a beer or smoke pot be proactive from step1 $20 can get you any home drug test the bottom line is if you are involved with your kids and look for signs of drug/alcohol use you will see it and have time to act
Fuckthepatch February 22, 2013 at 04:28 AM
Your all pathetic honestly get a life and learn how to control your own goddamn kids pot isn't bad but we all have opinions so stfu
West Islip Mom of 3 February 22, 2013 at 05:54 AM
Robert Christiansen Shame on you for stating - and I quote "West Islip parents are more concerned with paying bills, looking-good, and their property values than they are about their children's future." Are you that self righteous that you are you are referring to all West Islip parents. The same West Islip parents that so generously support your charitable needs. Maybe the West Islip parents that you associate with are that way, but rest assured all of us are not that shallow. We are hard working mothers and fathers trying to keep our children safe as they grow and learn to be productive members of society. Not all teens are problematic nor are all parents indifferent to teen drug and alcohol abuse. I know this as much as I know that all people names Robert are not a$$holes, only a select few are.

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